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The Guidelines below were written by Pamela Coronado, a licensed Private Investigator in Arizona. Some of these may seen contrary to what you have heard. We've listed them here so you will know there may be alternatives to help protect your child that you may not hear elsewhere. For more on this topic, visit her website http://www.pamcoronado.com Empowering Children! Recognizing & Avoiding
"Stranger Danger" By: Pamela Coronado After experiencing so much heart break and frustration in trying to locate missing children, I developed my own prevention program called Smart Hearts. This differs from other "stranger danger" programs in a few significant ways.
Respect Your Intuition Taking the lead from Gavin De Becker, America's leading expert on violent behavior, I have incorporated Intuition-Instinct into the safety equation. The subject of instinct has been greatly neglected when dealing with safety, and yet, is a vital component to self-protection.
Smart Hearts reminds children that their feelings should always be respected and followed when it comes to their personal safety. Seven Myths About Child Predators As a private investigator that specializes in child abductions, I know intimately how child predators operate.
In having to engage and study pedophiles I have learned much about them. I want to pass on some essential truths to parents about the dangers their children really face in today's world, and shed light on many common misconceptions about child safety. MYTH 1: Teaching my children not to talk to strangers will keep them safe THE ACTUAL TRUTH IS... Many of the children kidnapped from their "safe" neighborhoods did not interact with a stranger at all but were grabbed by someone who jumped out of a car. Predators troll neighborhoods in search of easy targets, I know this for a fact.
Kids need to be taught to always stay with their friends when playing in the front yard, preferably under the supervision of an adult, otherwise they should play in the back yard where it is safer. Children also need to be taught to scream, yell, kick and fight even if the abductor threatens to hurt them if they are not quiet. If the abductor covers their mouth with one hand, the child needs to bite them as hard as possible and then continue screaming "FIRE, FIRE, FIRE". This is extremely important. MYTH 2: I should teach my children to fear all strangers THE ACTUAL TRUTH IS... Though this has been the common approach to the problem over the years, I know it doesn't work for many reasons. Children who have been taught this are too afraid to ask anyone for help if they become lost or find themselves being followed. This leaves them vulnerable to real danger. Teaching children to mistrust all strangers also gives them a very negative impression of humanity and makes them feel powerless. Children need to learn the difference between predators and strangers. A stranger could just save your child's life one day. Teaching children how to effectively deal with all strangers, good and dangerous, will empower them. MYTH 3: I should teach my child to find the nearest police officer or security guard if they become lost. THE ACTUAL TRUTH IS... Ted Bundy was a security guard. My next door neighbor who stabbed his girlfriend to death was a security guard. Security guards do not get background checks before being hired. Enough said. As for finding a police officer, this is also a bad idea. You don't want to encourage the child to wander far off from the place you last saw them so finding a police officer could be quite impractical in some situations.
I encourage children to find a person they feel comfortable with, possibly another mother, and ask for help. MYTH 4: Children are usually taken from stores, fairs or other crowded public places. THE ACTUAL TRUTH IS... Approximately 85% of child abductions occur within 1/4 mile of the home or school. The most common kidnapping scenario happens right in front of the home or very near the home in the evening hours between 4:00 pm and 6:00 pm when the children are playing outside. Children riding bikes and roller blades are often the targets. Children walking to and from school alone are the second favorite victim group, as with a child waiting alone at a bus stop. The riskiest situation is a child leaving a friend's house unescorted late at night.
MYTH 5: Young children are too weak and small to fight off an adult. THE ACTUAL TRUTH IS... Given the proper tools any child can escape the grip of an adult. Practice with your child at home and see how empowered they feel when they learn how to release your grip with ease. Grab your child with one hand by the wrist. Instruct your child to grab your thumb and pull it back. It will be impossible for you to keep your grip.
MYTH 6: Strangers present the greatest threat to kids. THE ACTUAL TRUTH IS... While stranger abduction is very real with often tragic consequences, stranger abductions make up a small percentage of all missing kids in this country. Relatives, non-custodial parents, grandparents and family friends are the most likely to actually kidnap a child. Molestation is even more rampant with relatives, neighbors, friends, fathers, coaches, clergy, school employees, and even bus drivers being the common perpetrators.
Any time a child tells you they are uncomfortable with a person LISTEN. Denial serves only one purpose - to keep your child in danger. I have little patience with parents who refuse to listen to their children or acknowledge their discomfort. Not only do you have to listen to your child and protect your child the way nature intended for you to, you must heed your own gut feelings about the people who interact with your child. As a parent, this is your responsibility. MYTH 7: Coaches, clergy, camp counselors, bus drivers and clowns are harmless. THE ACTUAL TRUTH IS... Coaches, clergy, camp counselors, bus drivers and clowns DO NOT require background checks before they can interact with your child. While you may find it personally difficult to mistrust these people it's important to know that these are favored positions for pedophiles. Pedophiles have a compulsion and obsession about children and will do whatever they can to be near them, waiting for an opportunity to get them alone. If you have ANY doubts about a person who interacts with your child listen to your gut instincts. Nothing is a stronger indicator of problems than your own instincts. If any inkling of doubt arises follow through and check the person out. You can do this through your local Sheriff's Office and in many states, on line.
Book: Kid Safe! Ms. Coronado, along with her good friend Joan Bramsch, have written a book which will advise you of the best ways to educate, inform and protect your family from the ever-present danger of child molesters and kidnappers. Simply click here, and you will move to the Joan Bramsch website where you will be able to see and order the book.
We invite you visit Pamela Coronado's website; pamcoronado.com.
Children's Online Safety In The News
msnbc.com (Dateline)
Information on children's online safety, eg.; your children and the dangers of myspace.com. Is your child giving out personal information without knowing it? Check out this site and be prepare to be shocked. http://www.msnbc.com ABC News: Online Predators Prey on Kids ... ABC News Home > Good Morning America. Online Predators Prey on Kids ... Sheriff Grady Judd helped capture online child predators. They allegedly caught Brian Doyle, a deputy press... http://www.abcnews.go.com/GMA/LegalCenter/story?id=1820774&page=1&... Help To Halt Online Predators - CBS News Earlier this week, a Connecticut man was sentenced to 30 years in prison for the murder and sexual assault of a sixth grade girl. Her guardian, now an I-Safe America spokesperson, visited The Early Show to discuss Internet safety. http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/.../07/earlyshow/living/parenting/ main552841.shtml Internet Safety, News and Media, WiredSafety News Breaking news from our organization and around the world ... here: Home > Information > News and Media > WiredSafety News > Archive > The Anatomy of ... Predators can spot lonely children. They can also spot kids who are new online and may... http://www.wiredsafety.org/news/ws/archive/predatorchp.html
Are you a teen and need another teen to listen to you? Do you, as a teen, need answers from another teen to your questions about anything?
Go to the following website: OnYourMind.net: Peer support, chat, information and help... So, what's on your mind? We're a non-profit web-based organization from teens, for teens that can provide support and referrals through an online chat, ... http://www.onyourmind.net/ Child Safety: From Sexual Predators, and how you can get one for your family. Please visit our Family Learning Center
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