This is the by far the most difficult and controversial topic I have put on this website. Below is an article on how a teen can tell their parents they are pregnant. The article may help teens and parents understand how best to handle this tense and awkward situation.

On the Welcome page of this website I make no excuses for being a Christian. I do not take lightly the discussion of teen pregnancy and the abortion issue. My wife and I take a stand against abortion. If you have never seen what an abortion does to a baby, then you need to view the video http://www.abortionno.org/. I warn you this video is very graphic since it is an actual abortion being performed. I would even suggest if you have a teenager, boy or girl, who is considering terminating a pregnancy, that they watch this video with you.

My hope is that everyone who views this page will understand that abortion is murder. It takes away the rights of the unborn child to LIFE, LIBERTY and the PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS. We all agree that when one person kills another, they should be punished.  If a child predator abducts a child and kills them, we want that person severely punished. How is that different from killing a child still in the womb.

One alternative to abortion is for the teen and her family take care of the baby. Hopefully the child's father will want to be a part of the plan. It is best when a child has both parents. However, many times the natural father wants no part in having a child. They may even put pressure on the girl, and her family, to have an abortion. Many children start life without the father being a part of the child's life. If the parents and the teen girl decide to have the child and raise it as a family, then the child has a chance to know life and love.

Another alternative to abortion, why not put the child up for adoption. If the teen and their family cannot care for the child, then give him/her a chance to have a long and happy life. You may be saving the life of the person who may cure cancer or may find any number of solutions to the the worlds problems. Listed below are websites that deal with adoption. Take the time to look at each one. Your child deserves the chance to live.

Also on this website is a topic entitled, Talking To Your Kids About Sex. I urge parents to look at this page. It may give you some insight into how best to address the issue of sex education for your children. Children of today have not been taught that sex is for a married man and woman. Sex is not something you try just to see if you like it. If children and teens did not have sex, there would be no need for abortions.

"Mom, Dad, I'm Pregnant."

Standing by Your Teen – No Matter What

By Megan Potter

When the words "I'm pregnant" come out of a teen's mouth, parents are often at a loss for what to do. They react emotionally, not logically, and the resulting confrontations often leave the teens alone without the support of their parents and other family members.

Your Initial Response
What should you do if your teen tells you she is pregnant?

The most important thing is to stay calm. Tracy Underwood, a licensed psychologist at Children's Medical Center of Dallas, advises that parents recognize the teen is likely to be frightened and confused and looking to Mom and Dad for guidance.

As one teen told the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, "I would like it if [parents] came out and said what they meant ... The unhelpful thing is when they start to lecture." If all else fails, ask your son or daughter to leave you with time for yourself before you react to the shock.

When you talk to your teen, be honest about your feelings. There is no point in chastising them or lecturing them; the damage is already done. But that doesn't mean you can't tell your child how disappointed you are in their behavior. Being supportive does not mean you have to be – or pretend to be – happy about the situation. Being supportive simply means that you help them through it.

Talking to Your Teen
Now that your child is in an adult situation, you'll want to treat them like an adult. When you talk to them, tell them why you feel the way you feel. Don't simply insist they use a particular option; explain your reasoning for it. Your kids may not follow your advice, but they are more likely to consider it if it comes as advice and not as an order.

Some things you should be sure to discuss with your son or daughter include the choices (abortion, adoption, parenting), finances, responsibility and your role in the situation. Tell your teen what you think of each of the options available to them, why you feel that way about each one and which option you would prefer they choose. At the same time, offer to go with them to look into each of the options so they can make informed decisions.

Talk to them about the financial issues, and be frank. Will your insurance cover the medical care? Who will be responsible for covering any extra expenses that might arise? What role will the other teen be taking in the finances? Whether they choose to parent or not, you should be aware that there are costs involved in all decisions, mainly medical and counseling.

"A plan needs to be generated," Underwood says. "Your plan of action should include – among others – finding a doctor, one who preferably works with young mothers."

Be sure to talk to your teen about what you can or will do to help out. Not all parents are willing to take on the same role. Some feel their children should be forced to accept the responsibility for their actions while others choose to shield their children as much as possible. Your options range from adopting the child yourself, allowing your child and the baby to live with you, asking them to pay room and board or simply being a full- or part-time babysitter. Your ethics and other more practical issues – like money and space – can be influences in your decisions.

Tell your child why you are willing to do what you are willing to do. Then discuss what they will have to work out. Remember they are children in an adult situation. Offer your guidance in finding a place to live, buying groceries and anything else for which they may need you.

What Not to Do

·        Don't accuse them of being stupid or promiscuous – it will only cause anger and resentment.

·        Don't threaten or force them to follow your decision. They might not do it and might not talk to you anymore if they feel threatened.

·        Don't take it sitting down. They need to know you care enough to be upset by it.

·        Don't kick them out. Statistics for teen parents and children on the street are grim. You'll regret the decision later.

·        Don't play "do what I say, not what I do." Help your kids with your actions and your words.

·        Don't loose your temper. What's done is done. Move on and make the most of the situation.

"Parents need to play a leading force for the child," Underwood says. "Remember, they are still a child."

What You Can Do
While you are talking to your son or daughter, there are other things you can be doing. Be sure to make the effort to meet the parents of the other teen involved and to talk about the same issues you discussed with your own teen. It may turn out that the other parents refuse to have anything to do with the situation. But you may find by meeting with them that you can come to agreements that will give your child and their child the best possible futures.

Educate yourself about teen pregnancy and the options involved. Before choosing abortion, look into the benefits and the consequences of the decision. Speak to both doctors and organizations that advise against abortion. Take the teens to visit adoption centers or lawyers. See if there is a way that your teen can talk to others who have chosen adoption. Go to places that serve pregnant teens and arrange to meet with those who have chosen to parent, and find out what they have to say. The Internet is also a great source of information on all three options.

Try to remain unbiased in your education. Learn everything you can and share it with your teens. There are nine months of pregnancy in which to make a final decision, so make sure that you have encouraged an informed decision and that everyone is prepared to handle the possible consequences of that decision. But remember: In the end, it is their decision, and there may be nothing you can do to change it.

Most importantly, get counseling. Arrange for you and your spouse to speak to a professional. If you have other children, you may want to involve them, too. Be sure that your child is seeing some kind of counselor who will address the many emotional issues involved in teen pregnancy. Encourage the other teen and the teen's family to seek a counselor or to take part in some of your sessions.

"Parents need to recognize their own fear and uncertainty and to keep it in check ... to acknowledge that it is a real thing," Underwood says.

Counseling provides a way to deal with fears and to come to grips with the situation. You can seek a counselor or therapist who does family work. You can turn to a local church for referral or you can ask a hospital how to contact your local crisis pregnancy center. All centers differ somewhat, but all are there to help pregnant teens (though some counsel others, too).

Your teen will find knowledgeable support, group events and assistance with food, money, health and more at one of these centers. They may or may not provide family counseling. If they do, consider taking part. Most municipalities will have a crisis pregnancy support group or center; it's simply a matter of locating it.

Educate Your Teen About Sex
It's never too late for sex education. The statistics aren't readily available, but an inordinate amount of teen parents have more children before they are out of their teen years and have a stable base. Whether this is because they have given up hope for success or they simply have neglected to take precautions, it remains that pregnancy doesn't always shock kids straight.

Take advantage of the new relationship this situation has fostered, and talk to your teen about having sex. Ask whether they plan to continue to have sex. Talk to them about contraception, what they did before and what they should be doing now. Be open and honest and encourage them to believe that one mistake doesn't make life a failure. Continue to be supportive of them and make it clear that they can always come to you with questions about sex now that the issue is in the open.

It is a devastating thing to find your teen has been irresponsible enough to get pregnant. But it's also a devastating thing to destroy a relationship in a few moments, or months, of anger and disappointment.

"When push comes to shove and families are not there for you, you start to feel like a failure. Then you start to act like one," says Fremor Williams, executive director of the Grimsby Life Centre. "That's terrible when you become a parent."

If you are supportive and open, your kids might make the right decisions and be more likely to look forward to a bright and hopeful future. Without you, they may be doomed to fall in among the statistics of depression, poverty, abuse, neglect and to have children with equally dim futures. Be the best parent you can be and stand by your teen – no matter what.

The article above was borrowed from: http://www.teenagerstoday.com/resources/articles/pregnant.htm

Please take the time to visit their website for more information.

Abortion: Consider An Alternative

One young woman, Caroline chose to have an abortion at 17. She shared recently how every day she thinks about the abortion and still regrets her decision. She had not given it much thought until she got married, became pregnant again and had given birth to her baby.

The memories flowed back as she held her beautiful daughter. She said she is haunted by the abortion and wishes she had chosen adoption. She went on to say, “At least I would know I had given the baby a chance. It was very selfish of me to think I would not be affected by this later on.”

By choosing adoption rather than abortion, you will always be comforted knowing that even though you could not provide for your child, you did give him/her life and the opportunity to grow up in a happy, secure home with the love of parents chosen especially for him/her by you.

To read the entire article: http://www.pregnancyhelponline.com/pregnancy_options/abortion.html

Please visit their website for more information: http://www.pregnancyhelponline.com/index.html

Estimated abortion statistics

·         One baby is aborted every 26 seconds

·         137 babies are aborted every hour

·         3,304 babies are aborted every day

·         23,196 babies are aborted every week

·         100,516 babies are aborted every month

·         1,205,960 babies are aborted every year

·         An estimated 50 million babies are aborted every year worldwide

*Note: The figures above are only estimations based on reported abortions.

The actual numbers are probably higher since some abortions are not reported.

Websites with videos

Abortion NO / The Center for Bio-Ethical Reform

The internet home to the most compelling anti abortion projects in existence (The
Genocide Awareness Project, The Reproductive "Choice" Campaign, ...
http://www.abortionno.org/ 

Silent Scream

WARNING: This video contains graphic images which some may find disturbing. ...
To play the high-speed video clips, click on the forward arrow of the video ...
http://www.silentscream.org/video1.htm

Abortion Pictures and Video

See the inhumanity of abortion through post-abortion pictures at various stages
of fetal development.
http://prolifetraining.com/Abortion-Video.htm

YouTube - anti abortion vid

Pro-life Anti-Abortion Video: Development of the Unborn Baby · Pro-life Anti-Abortion
Video: Development of the Unborn Baby. 04:31 From: catholichomeschool ...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=biYm_pLUn5o

Videos of abortions

Watch this before you go to a doctor for abortion

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sXhyc0bXHh4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rOny71OfD0Q

http://www.billdetucci.com/The_Hard_Truth_Abortion_Vid.php

Partial birth abortion demonstration video

http://www.dyinglight.com/index.php/07-12-2006/partial-birth-abortion-video/

Websites on adoption

Should I Place My Child for Adoption - Severing Rights - Giving up ...

What are the reasons for and against placing a child for adoption? What are the
pros and cons to adoption? Are there resources available to help an ...
http://www.adoption.about.com/od/placingachild/i/adoptionoption.htm

Adoption, Not Abortion - People Who Were Adopted Speak Out

I think that giving up your child takes incredible bravery and love and I ...
They were both in college and gave me up for adoption as they had no means of ...
http://www.gargaro.com/adoptedkids.html

How do you give a child up for adoption? | Answerbag.com

Giving up a child for adoption must be a heart-wrenching difficult thing to do
and this post doesn't speak to those issues. There...
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/54725

Putting Your Child Up for Adoption - Associated Content

Dec 23, 2006 ... After giving this careful thought, there are several ways you can go about putting
your child up for adoption. Putting Your Child Up For ...
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/105366/putting_your_child_up_for_adoption.html

What happens when you give a child up for adoption

Jan 29, 2005 ... Women don't realize how gratifying it can be to give a child up for adoption
rather than buy into Planned Parenthood's abortion plan. ...
http://www.renewamerica.us/columns/shroder/050129

Just when you think you’ve seen and heard it all, you hear a story and see a photo like the one below. I hope this touches all of you as much as it touched me. This is more proof that abortions and partial birth abortions kill innocent lives.

A picture began circulating in November.  It should be 'The Picture of the Year,' or perhaps, 'Picture of the Decade.'  It won't be.  In fact, unless you obtained a copy of the US paper which published it, you probably would never have seen it.

The picture is that of a 21-week-old unborn baby named Samuel Alexander Armas, who is being operated on by surgeon named Joseph Bruner.

The baby was diagnosed with spinal bifida and would not survive if removed from his mother's womb.  Little Samuel's mother, Julie Armas, is an obstetrics nurse in Atlanta.  She knew of Dr. Bruner's remarkable surgical procedure.  Practicing at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville, he performs these special operations while the baby is still in the womb.

During the procedure, the doctor removes the uterus via C-section and makes a small incision to operate on the baby.  As Dr. Bruner completed the surgery on Samuel, the little guy reached his tiny, but fully developed hand through the incision and firmly grasped the surgeon's finger.  Dr. Bruner was reported as saying that when his finger was grasped, it was the most emotional moment of his life, and that for an instant during the procedure he was just frozen, totally immobile.

The photograph captures this amazing event with perfect clarity.  The editors titled the picture, 'Hand of Hope.'  The text explaining the picture begins, ’The tiny hand of 21-week- old fetus Samuel Alexander Armas emerges from the mother's uterus to grasp the finger of Dr. Joseph Bruner as if thanking the doctor for the gift of life.'  

Little Samuel's mother said they 'wept for days' when they saw the picture.  She said, 'The photo reminds us pregnancy isn't about disability or an illness, it's about a little person.'  Samuel was born in perfect health; the operation was 100 percent successful.